Why #YesMom Is The New Age Parenting Technique
Recently I saw a video about a social experiment conducted by ActivKids Immuno Boosters by Cipla. The experiment was done to evaluate how often do parents say ‘NO’ to their children and how does that affect the little ones.
Before I share how profoundly the video impacted my thoughts on parenting, I’d like for you to watch the video
I saw the video and was quite surprised to see the results of the social experiment. Without trying to be judgmental, I thought – these moms are limiting their child’s social growthand slimming down their possibilities to build healthy relationships with peers by giving a negative reaction apropos to – playing outside, eating with peers and playing with a friend who might be under the weather.
I reflected on the video for a while and asked if it is actually happening…I couldn’t help but think that I am also guilty of the same. The reasons may differ, the situation may be unique to my family but the crux is same, I refuse to let my child have certain experiences which may be rudimentary to his overall social, emotional and personal development.
For instance, ours being a joint family has 5 different kinds of children, each having a very distinct yet strong personality. I often ask my 6-year-old to stay away from his notorious 9-year-old cousin, as I suspect he’ll get my son up to some or the other mischief.
What I Realized
Watching the #YesMom video made me realize that my son has practically cut down his outdoor play time to a significant ‘NIL’. And, I’m probably to be blamed for this. When I constantly nag him for playing with certain kids, he takes that negative reaction and builds his own perception from it.
Inspired by the video, I asked my son – Why don’t you go out to play these days? And he answered in all his innocence – “If I’ll play outside you’ll get upset with me. I know you don’t like it when I play with bhaiya!”
There it was, in a few words my son proved that I’m no different from the moms in the video. I understood how much a simple two letter word ‘NO’ was affecting my child. I instantly made a resolution to give up the ‘NO Mom Parenting’ and be a #YESMom.