My kid's reaction towards their new #YesMom
Recently I stumbled upon this video and like the mother in the video, it made me ask myself certain searching questions. As moms, we say ‘NO’ to our kids all the time…I hadn’t realized that one word has so many consequences… Watch the video ….
See what I mean? We can all agree that motherhood is one of the most challenging, yet lovely experiences we can have. Being a mom comes with its share of lessons and we learn each day in our journey. Being the mom of two kids…over the time I have realized that one of the key requirement for being a good mother is patience. I am not a patient person by nature and I used to get upset or angry when my kids made mischief, threw tantrums etc. I used to yell, shout and spoil my mood as well as the kids’.
For instance, my younger one is very naughty and curious. He used to literally throw his toys out of the window. And I always used to shout “No!” “Stop that!” “Don’t touch that!” “Didn’t you hear me? I said NO!” Once the anger subsided…I used to feel bad and try to cajole him later. But then the damage was done.
Over the time…I observed that the child had stopped touching anything in front of me but when I was not around his mischief would be more. Somewhere, the thought pricked me…what am I doing…am I teaching him to hide and do things behind my back? I slowly started working on it and tried to change myself.
After watching the video…I stopped saying NO and I took the #YesChallenge. Then, I too, became a part of his game. I allowed him to throw ball out the window and I would catch it on the outside. Funnily enough, within a few days he got bored of it and stopped it completely!
Every day I am bombarded with 100 questions…
” Amma, can I eat chocolate? “
” Amma, can I play in the rain today?”
” Amma, can we have a doggy? “
” Amma…can I play for some more time and not study? “
To be honest the inner red monster feels like yelling a BIG NO to all these questions, thinking the aftermath.
If he eats chocolate now…he won’t eat dinner properly…If he plays in the rain, he will catch a cold …doggy = mess …. pheew… I know saying No sounds so practical…right? But should I be saying no to my children all the time? I have learnt it’s ok to say yes!
Being a #YesMom has taught me to react to the same questions in a better way, here are some examples…
– “Yes baby, you can eat chocolate…but only after dinner “
“Yes, let’s play in a warm shower, before your bath, I don’t want my baby to catch a cold”
“Oh yes, you can go to play again but first let’s quickly finish studies “
“Wow!! A doggy!! I love the idea, let’s get one once you can take it out for walk by yourself”
From the time I have transitioned to a #YesMom, I see a lot of changes in our relationship. The house seems livelier, we feel more connected, my kids find a friend in me and are happy to share each and everything in their lives with their mom. They rarely back answer or through tantrums- they are no longer little rebels.